It has been an eon since I last posted. Not good! Although I’ve been trying to tell myself, “Everything is as it should be,” which really helps ease the anxiety and pressure I feel. I hope that if anyone out there is feeling the same you will take a deep breath and recite with me: “Things are as they should be!”
I came across this exquisite blog written by a physician here in Chicago. I have found his entries to be intelligent, thoughtful, wise and often profound. I have added the link to his website in my blogroll. I plan on featuring some of his entries I have found particularly interesting. This man has a gift of insight that needs to be shared. Having said that, the first entry I add is called: How To Grow Up. I hope you enjoy.
In keeping with the suggestion that we need to “discipline” our minds into proper thinking and attitudes, I can suggest several things that have helped me. The first one is reading. Read anything that you can to help encourage and motivate you to better more positive ways of thinking and problem solving. There are literally an endless supply of helpful resources in libraries, online, counseling centers, small group meet-ups (check out www.meetup.com), churches….the list is literally endless.
One of my very favorite “mind disciplines” is an on going list I keep of “my favorite things in life.” I continually add to it. Here’s a sample:
“Gently falling snow
The first snow of the season
Birds singing just before dawn
Puppy sniffing in my ear
The smell of almond extract when
making Christmas cookies
Rice pudding and lingonberries
Fireplace on a cold night
The arms of someone who loves me
wrapped around me
Hearing the words, “you’re safe now”
Hearing the words, “you matter to me”
Hearing the words, “mommy, I think I
Walking in the woods
Watching the sun set
Seeing a rainbow
Experiencing a thunderstorm
walking in the rain
Being on a boat
Having a “connection” with someone
A good nights sleep
Popping a big piece of calculus off
someone’s teeth ( weird, I know!)
Learning something new
60′s and 70′s rock and roll!
A great movie
The hope of better sex
Differences between men and women
First 70 degree day in spring
A nice hotel
If ever I feel sad, or in a frump or find I myself putting on those grumpy-pants, I pull out my list and realign my thinking and my heart starts melting the moment I start reading and visualizing that first snowfall, or the arms of a wonderful man holding me, or what it’s like to be on a boat on a warm day with poofy white clouds filling the sky….there are so many incredible things life has to offer…
My suggestion is to try this idea, and whenever you catch yourself with a negative attitude start reading your list…dwell on what makes life so magnificently great and you will soon have so many things on your list you won’t know what you ever pined about to begin with!
**About the photo: These little kittens I adopted about 9 months ago. They both ended up having medical emergencies and almost died. I am so happy to have them and they immediately became two of my favorite things…They are the best purr-ers!
Well, firstly “My”…it is my blog after all. However, the phrase “my mind’s eye,” I thought was a clever use of an old cliched phrase to refer to my thoughts, which is what this blog is mainly about. I thought about naming it “A Poke In My Mind’s Eye” referring to how we need to do that to ourselves every now and then to get us into truly beneficial thinking. Plus, I thought it was cleverly humorous. But I can’t take credit for that phrase. I originally heard it on one of my favorite episodes of Frasier called “The Ring Cycle.” It is the first episode of season 10. Niles is making a comment about his honeymoon with Daphne, that he was done packing because all he was taking was sunscreen, to which Frasier snidely responds, “I think I’ll go poke my minds eye out!” I loved that show!
The “Cafe” part is essential. In our present culture the cafe has become the gathering place, the “hang-out.” A place for friends to casually gather over a steamy cup of joe (and I do mean coffee, girls!) and connect, discuss, laugh, commune…to share their unique gifts with one another and never be the same.
Something else very important I have learned on this road to authenticity is: This is MY life. I have a responsibility to be uniquely ME. It is my gift to the world…dare I say it is God’s gift to the world. YOU are God’s gift to the world. Only you can love the world in your unique way and give your unique gifts. Anything and anyone you let stand in the way of you being authentically you is you being less than what God wants of you.
So I am writing this blog to help us all be authentically us. To give wisdom and insight from multimple sources and allow you to express your unique gifts as you share your wisdom and experience. You are most definitely encouraged to comment! I hope this will serve to strengthen our connection to each other and this life we share; there is way more that binds us together than separates us. Know you are not alone and you ARE God’s gift! Unwrap it and let it free!
About the photo: I took this photo on a walk in a forest preserve by my house. It is one of my favorite places of restoration. I took it last fall when the asters were blooming.
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I feel my life coming together. It’s a vision of all these seemingly unconnected paths and experiences, like loose ends of random threads floating before me, being tied together. All my experiences, good and bad, painful and joyous; all the people I’ve known and loved and love still are converging in this moment. It’s an epiphany of sorts. A new self-awareness of the world and my world and my place in it. I always loved that song by Michael W. Smith, “My Place In This World” but, it always left me feeling melancholy. Just where was that place?
I have a place! And I love my place. Wow! It took 48 years to say that? Slow learner? Maybe. Or maybe that’s exactly the way it’s suppose to be! I’m exactly the way I’m suppose to be!
Someone told me when I was quite young trying to figure out what to do in a particular situation in my life…I can’t even remember the current dilemma at that time, all I remember is what they said: “In life, no experience is ever wasted. As long as you are open to learning and growing, everything has a purpose.” I have recalled that innumerable times. Chanted it in painful times. It ticked me off a few times. But I always knew it was true! I can see it now.
Wherever you are, you have a place. You belong. You matter.
Your experiences do not define you, you define your experiences.
Open your heart, grow, learn, be uniquely you and take your place in your world…in THE world!
Peace and laughter!
This is my first REAL entry. Whoo hoo! I’m writing this blog for me…to get my thoughts out, and for you; whoever you may be. In my experience, others’ experiences have helped me immeasurably, whether I knew them personally or not so maybe, just maybe, I can help you, too.
I find myself in unexpected places: 48 years old (when did that happen), newly divorced after 25 years of marriage, financially iffy, (I always liked that word although, not necessarily in relation to “financially”). I am working again after being a homemaker, wife and mother most of my adult life (not that homemaking, wife-ing and mothering aren’t “working,” mind you!). I’m learning to sort all of this out after many years of isolation and depression and trying to find supportive friends in the process…and the list goes on. It is all overwhelming at times!
Obviously, none of this was planned, but then what in life really happens as planned? Remember John Lennon said, “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” So true! And *poof * I’m 48!
Where are your unexpected places?
I am veraciously reading, trying to absorb and incorporate into my life the collective wisdom of so many who have gone before me. I want the second half of my life to be more purposeful, no matter what comes my way. One of the things I have learned on my journey thus far (Oh, good! I have been paying attention some of the time. Whew!) The only thing I have control over is my mind…my attitude; and let me tell you it is crucial to having a fulfilled life, great relationships, positive self-esteem, etc… So many of us just let our minds go wherever they want to, think whatever they want to and (this is a big one) dwell on whatever they want to. We have let our minds rule us instead of the other way around. Our minds need discipline and to be content we must give these boundaries. It is a matter of self-love and self-respect. We cannot control the unexpected situations, people, and events that happen in our day to day lives, but we can control the meaning we attach to them with our minds.
Laughter and Peace!
About the photo: I took the picture last summer on a walk around a pond by my house. There are always fantastic birds and critters that just fill my heart with joy. This Great Blue Heron was especially photogenic and let me get quite close…What a handsome fellow…I think I’m in love!
I am just getting everything set up here…it may take me a little while longer. After all, it is kinda dark in here! Just thought I’d say hello and welcome to the journey that is my life and if you continue to read this blog I suppose it or I (eye) will be a part of your journey as well. I hope that will be a good thing. I can assure you at the very least, it will be entertaining! So while I try to find the light switch (as if THAT will do any good in this mind) and figure out some more of the technical IT stuff to proceed with my musings I wish you all: Peace! and lots of laughter!